This is a follow-up to an earlier post about refugees in Germany
It was an afternoon full of surprises. For one, the Syrian teenagers loved baking Christmas biscuits. One of the boys carved the name ‘DIANA’ into his piece of dough and nodded shyly when I asked if it was the name of his girlfriend.
I met a Serbian man and his two young daughters, who looked angelic in matching owl hats. They’ve been here for six months and already the little girls speak perfect German.
When they arrived, they were entitled to free lessons. That policy has since changed to reflect the government’s intention to fast-track the applications of people with little hope of being granted asylum. Anyone from the Balkans is no longer considered worth the investment.
The father, ambitious, highly educated and fluent in English, fitted the description of ‘economic migrant.’ In Serbia, he worked as a salesman, overseeing two shopping centers. One of his ventures was into Lebanese honey, which he assured me, was the best in the world. “Even better than Manuka,” he said. He told me that no matter how hard he worked in Serbia, it remained a struggle to make ends meet. “It was different in the former Yugoslavia,” he said. “We had prosperity then. Now we can’t afford anything. And our passport is useless.”
As a fellow economic migrant, it made me sad to reflect that the accident of my birthplace entitled me, but not him, to seek a better future here.
But pragmatism, I think has to win out. There are 800 asylum-seekers arriving in Berlin every day. School gym halls are now being used to accommodate them. On the radio yesterday a mother described her son’s disappointment at finding out that his football training had been cancelled because the sports hall was now home to Syrian refugees.
The war in Syria has so dominated the conversation about refugees that it’s easy to forget the people coming from everywhere else.
As I was making to leave with another female volunteer, two young men motioned over to us. They gave off a macho, yet needy vibe, asking in a conspiratorial tone whether we used ‘Whatsapp.’ I was evasive in my answer but relented and gave them my number when they asked for it directly.
The men come from Gambia. One of them has been sending me unsolicited messages. He has been transparent, and – frankly – inappropriate in his pursuit of contact, refusing to accept that I have no romantic interest in him.
But I don’t regret giving him my number. His messages have been enlightening. It is depressing how desperate he is to attach himself to a woman from the EU. His messages are manipulative – describing his sadness at not hearing from me, demanding again and again to ‘meet me at the TV turm’ despite my clear assertion that this is not on the cards.
Sometimes the language of his messages changes, with sentences apparently copy and pasted from lyrics or inspirational quotes.
I don’t particularly pity him, as I was annoyed that his badgering continued after I asked him to stop.
But I do wonder what he left behind in Gambia and whether being married to an EU citizen really would be the utopia he imagines.
It’s so easy to forget that the story behind every news update has countless threads, even though the media insists on reporting only one. Thank you for your insight!
Thanks for stopping by, Aoife! You’re absolutely right and I have to say that working in the media, I’m all too aware of these simplifications. It was eye-opening to meet these people and I was glad to be there as an ordinary person, and not a journalist.
That’s very insightful. Are you volunteering to help out with the refugees? It sounds like there’s been a huge impact within Berlin itself.
Thank Clarice (so nice to see you back here!) Yes, I joined a local volunteer group recently. So far all I’ve done is what I’ve described though. One thing I want to do is have a friendship/mentorship with an individual (known as “Patenschaft”). Germany’s expecting a million asylum seekers before the end of the year.. it’s difficult to imagine what impact it will have! I’m excited by the new arrivals but also a bit worried about how thing will pan out.